There is a mainstream quote that said: Every meeting in this life is a fate. That’s so true in the story that I’m gonna tell you now. My story with books on the journey of youth growth and stress management lightened my mind in the way I could never thank enough.
The book’s named “The four agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz
Despite such a wonderful book, my critical thinking skills can not let me totally agree with the 4 agreements. But afterwards, I still took out some points that incredibly can be helpful in such a simple way. And let’s just go straight to the point, I’ll tell you now
#Agreement1: Be impeccable with your word
Why? Word can heal, but word can hurt, though. Being mindful with every single word we speak out is the way that can help to save any relationship, or even solve the problem.
How to? There are tons of books that teach you communication. But to start, you simply need to take a deep breath, think in 2 seconds, then decide your words that you will speak to your friends or even to yourself. Words is like wind, once you speak it out, you can never take it back. What if your word is spread out to the whole world? Be mindful, careful, responsible with your word!
#Agreement2: Don’t take anything personally
Assume that there is a person who shoot at you, then you’ll start to ask yourself “What did I do?” It’s a good question to be self-aware. But in some cases, you need to clarify that you have nothing to do with such stuff, people. That he was shooting at you is just because of him, not you. The same thing goes for other situation in life. For example, when people say something about you, it’s not completely true, because it’s actually THEIR opinion and their view to the whole world as well. So, welcome feedback from others to improve yourself, BUT remember to be critical to decide what to take in, and what to throw away
#Agreement3: Don’t make assumption
A lot of unnecessary issues can be created by your assumption. By making assumptions, you are sure that you know what others think, which may drive you to the story that you can not see any other viewpoints . But in the other way, if you don’t make assumptions, you tend to believe everything people tell you, even when you are cheated. So, this agreement should be tempered by inner wisdom and common sense
#Agreeement4: Always do your best
Do you believe that you are much strongrer and much more potential than you could imagine? So what’s the point of doing your best? Simply not to regret, and I totally agree with the author on that point. Your best of today can be not as good as your best of the others day. But it’s ok as long as you did your best. Afterward, your best effort by every single moment will combine to create the achievement that makes you pleased.
Inconclusion, that we are living in a chaotic world can make you and me stressed out. But if you have your own rules to live, then your life will be much simpler and happier. Those 4 agreements is a tool for you to take into consideration.
Welcome all discussion in more detail,
Cheers!
EmmaQ
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